Muslim home 40 recommendations

The Muslim Home
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Based on work of
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
Prepared by shamjith km

The home is a blessing
"And Allah has made for you in your
homesan abode…"
[QUR'AAN 16:80]

What does the home represent to each
one of us? place where a person
• Eats
• Enjoys intimacy with his wife,
sleeps and rests?
• Is it not the place where he can be
alone and can meet with his wife
and children?

"And stay in your houses, and do not display
yourselves likethat of the times of
ignorance…" [QUR'AN 33:33]
Cover and protection to women

Pay attention to putting his house in order
O you who have believed,
protect yourselves and
your families from a Fire
whose fuel is people and stones,
over which are [appointed] angels,
harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah
in what He commands them but do what they are
commanded. [QUR’AAN 66:6]

All of you are guardians, and
all of you are responsible and
are held accountable
“Allah will ask every shepherd *or responsible
person] about his flock [those for whom he
was responsible], whether he took care
of it or neglected it, until He asks a man
about his household.”

The Prophet ( ) said: “Blessed is the one who
controls his tongue, whose house is
sufficient for him, and who weeps over his
mistakes.”
Place to protect oneself
To keep away from evil
To keep one's own evil away from people
The refuge prescribed by Islaam at times of
Fitnah (strife, tribulation).

The Prophet said: “There are five things, whoever does
one of them, Allah will be with him:
1. Visiting the sick
2. Going out for Jihaad
3. Entering upon his leader with the intention
of rebuking and respecting him
4. Sitting in his home so that the people
are safe from him and
5. He is safe from the people.”

The Prophet said: “The safety of a man
at times of Fitnah is in his staying
home.”

People usually spend most of their time at home,
especially when it is very hot or very cold, when it
is raining, early or late in the day, and after
finishing work or school, so this time should be
spent in worship and Halaal pursuits,
otherwise it will be spent in
wrongdoings.

Pay attention to the home
WHY ???
Family – Building block of society
Families together form neighborhood
Many neighborhoods
together forms a society

So, the basic unit of a society is a FAMILY
Transform your family
Transform your neighborhood
Transform your society
TRANSFORM THE UMMAH

What are the means of reforming our homes ?
Achieving interests
which is by establishing
that which is right and
good
warding off evil
by removing that which
can cause it or bring it
into our homes

"And marry those among you who are single [i.e., a
man who has no wife and a woman who has no husband]
and [also marry] the Saalihoon [pious, fit and capable
ones] of your [male] slaves and maid-servants [female
slaves]. If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of
His Bounty. And Allaah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’
needs, All-Knowing [about the state of the
people]." [QUR'AN 24:32].
Making a good choice when choosing a wife
1

Choose the one who is religious,
may your hands be rubbed with dust *i.e., may you prosper+!”
(AL-BUKHAARI AND MUSLIM).
A woman may be married for 4 things: `
Her wealth Her lineage her beauty Her religion

“Let every one of you have a thankful heart, a
remembering tongue [remembering Allaah]
and a believing wife who will help him with
regard to the Hereafter.” (AHMAD, 5/282)
“This world is all temporary conveniences,
and the greatest joy in this life is a
righteous wife.”
(MUSLIM, 1468)

“Marry one who is loving and fertile, for I
will be proud before the other Prophets of your
great numbers on the Day of Resurrection.”
(AHMAD)
“I advise you to marry virgins, for their
wombs are fresher, their mouths are
sweeter and they are more content
with little.” (IBN MAAJAH)

“One of *the elements of+ happiness is a
righteous wife, who when you see her you feel
pleased, and when you are away, you feel that
you can trust her with regard to herself and
your property.
And one of [the elements of] misery is a
bad wife who when you see her, you feel
upset, she keeps attacking you verbally,
and when you are away, you do not feel
that you can trust her with regard to
herself and your property.”

The Prophet said: “If there comes to
you one with whose religion and
character you are pleased, then
marry your daughter [or sister, etc.] to him,
otherwise there will be
Fitnah and great
corruption in the land.”

The righteous man and righteous woman
togetherwill build a righteous home,
because "the vegetation of a good land comes
forth [easily] by the Permission of its Lord, and
that which is bad, brings forth nothing but a
little with difficulty…" [QUR'AN 7:58]

Striving to guide one’s wife
A man must also realize from the outset that guidance
comes from Allaah, and that Allaah is the One
Who reforms people.
One of His blessings to his slave Zakariya (a)
"… and [We] cured his wife for him…“
[QUR'AAN 21:90]
2

• correcting worship of Allaah in all its aspects,
• Striving to strengthen her Eemaan,
Means of guiding or reforming one’s wife

Encouraging her to
• Pray at night (Qiyaam al-layl)
• Read Qur’aan
• Memorize Athkaar
• give charity
• Read useful Islaamic books
• protecting her from evil and
blocking off all avenues for it
to reach her, by keeping her
away from bad companions
and bad places.
• Creating an atmosphere of
faith in the home
• Listen to useful Islaamic
cassettes that can increase
knowledge and strengthen
Eemaan
• Choosing good, religious
friends for her, with whom
she can form ties of
sisterhood and have good
conversations and
purposeful visits.

The Prophet said: “The likeness of a
house in which Allaah is remembered
and the house in which Allaah is not
remembered is that of the living
and the dead, respectively.”
Making the home a place for the remembrance of Allaah
3

Allaah Says (what means): "And We inspired
Moosa and his brother *saying+: ‘Take dwellings
for your people in Egypt, and make your
dwellings as places for your worship, and
perform al-salaah, and give glad tidings to the
believers.’" [QUR'AAN 10:87].
Make your homes a place of worship
What is meant by taking the home as a
place of worship?
4

Spiritual training for the members of the household
‘Aa’ishah (ra) said: “The Messenger of Allaah used to pray
Qiyaam at night, and when he prayed Witr he would say: ‘Get
up and pray Witr, O ‘Aa’ishah’”
(MUSLIM)
5

The Prophet said: “May Allaah have mercy on a man who gets
up at night and prays, then he wakes up his wife to
pray, and if she refuses he throws water in
her face.” (AHMAD)

“O women! Give in charity, for I have
seen that you form the majority of the
inhabitants of Hell.”
(AL-BUKHAARI, AL-FATH, 1/405)

If the family members see an example among
them fasting on al-Ayyaam al-Beed (the 13th,
14th and 15th of each Hijri (lunar) month),
Mondays and Thursdays, Taasoo’aa’ and
‘Aashooraa’ (the 9th and 10th of Muharram),
‘Arafah, and frequently in Muharram and
Sha’baan, this will be a motive for them to do
likewise.

“When any one of you enters his home and mentions the
Name of Allaah when he enters and when he eats, the
Shaytaan says: ‘You have no place to stay and nothing to eat
here.’ If he enters and does not mention the name of Allaah
when he enters, [the Shaytaan+ says: ‘You have a place to
stay.’ If he does not mention the name of Allaah when he
eats, [the Shaytaan says+, ‘You have a place to stay
and something to eat.’” (MUSLIM, 3/1599)
6
Paying attention to Athkaar and supplications
from the Sunnah that have to do with the home

‘Aa’ishah (ra) said: “When the Messenger of
Allaah entered his
house, the first thing
he would do was use Siwaak.”
(MUSLIM)

The Messenger of Allaah said: “Do not make your houses into
graves. The Shaytaan flees from a house in which Soorat Al-
Baqarah is recited.” (MUSLIM, 1/539)
7
Continuously reciting Chapter Al-Baqarah in
the house to ward off the Shaytaan

Islamic Knowledge in the home
Teaching the family
8

Start building an Islaamic “library” in your home
Home audio library
9
10

"My Lord! Forgive me, and my parents, and him
who enters my home as a believer, and all
the believingmen and women…"
[QUR'AN 71:28]
Inviting good and righteous people and seekers
of knowledge to visit the home.
11

Learning the Islaamic rulings with regard to houses
• E.g:- Praying in the house
With regard to men, the Prophet said:
“The best prayer is a man’s prayer in his
house – apart from the prescribed prayers.”
(AL-BUKHAARI)
12

“A man should not be led in prayer in his
place of authority, and no one should sit in his place
in his house, except with his permission.”
(AT-TIRMITHI)

"O you who believe! Enter not houses other than your
own, until you have asked permission and greeted those
in them, that is better for you, in order that you may remember. And
if you find no one therein, still, enter not until permission has been
given. And if you are asked to go back, go back, for it is purer for
you. And Allaah is All-Knower of what you do." [QUR'AAN 24:27-
28].
And also (what means): "… so enter houses through their
proper doors…" [QUR'AAN 2:189].
Seeking permission to enter

The Messenger of Allaah said: “Whoever
sleeps on the roof of a house that has no
protecting wall, nobody is responsible for
what happens to him.” (ABU DAAWOOD)

Creating opportunities for meetings to
discuss family matters.
"… and who [conduct] their affairs by
mutual consultation…" [QUR'AAN 42:38]
13

Not showing family conflicts in front
of the children.
14

Not letting into the house anyone whose
commitment to Islaam is not pleasing to you
15
“Your rights over your women are that they
should not allow anyone to sit on your
beds whom you dislike, or allow anyone
into your homes whom you dislike.” (AT-TIRMITHI)

• Who are your children’s friends?
• Have you met them before?
• What do your children bring home from outside?
• Where does your daughter go, and with whom?
Taking careful note of what family
members are up to.
16

Some parents do not know that their children have
in their possession bad pictures,
pornographic movies and even drugs.
Their daughter goes with the (female) servant to the market,
then asks the servant to wait with the driver whilst
she goes to her appointment or “date” with one of
the Shayaateen (devils), or to smoke and mess about
with her bad friends.

• This supervision must be subtle.
• The atmosphere should not be intimidating.
• The child must not be made to feel that he
or she is not trusted.
• Advice and/or punishments must be
measured against the ages
• Beware of negative methods of checking on
children and making them feel that their
every move is being watched.
Important points to note

Paying attention to children at home.
• Teaching them to memorize the Qur’an and Islamic stories.
• There is nothing more beautiful than a father and his children
coming together to read Qur'aan with a simple
commentary, offering rewards for memorizing passages.
• Young children have memorized Chapter al- Kahf
from hearing it recited repeatedly by their fathers
every Friday.
17

Teach children
• Biography of Muhammad
• Stories of righteous people
• Story of the people of al-Ukhdood (the ditch)
• Story of the people of the garden in Chapter al-Qalam
We have no need of the many stories that go
against ‘Aqeedah, or frightening myths that
distort children’s concept of reality and make
them cowardly and afraid

• Beware of letting your children go out with
just anybody
• Be selective when choosing children of
relatives and neighbors to invite to come and
play with your children at home
• Make sure that your children’s play is both
entertaining and purposeful
• Avoid toys that go against Sharee’ah, like
musical instruments, or toys that have crosses
or them, or games containing dice

• Make a corner where children can practice
hobbies such as carpentry, electronics and
mechanics, or play some permissible computer
games.
• Separating boys and girls in their beds or
sleeping arrangements
• Joking and showing affection. The
Messenger of Allaah used to play with
children and pat their heads; he would speak
to them in a kind and gentle manner, giving the
littlest one the first fruit, and even letting them
ride on his back sometimes

- You can teach children the basics of Islamic
‘Aqeedah, for example as mentioned in the
Hadeeth in which the Prophet of Allaah
said: “Heed Allaah’s commandments and He
will protect you.”
- You can teach children good manners and the
Athkaar prescribed by Islaam
- E.g:- eating, sleeping, sneezing,
greeting, asking permission to enter.

Being strict in adhering to a schedule for
meals and bedtime.
Re-evaluating women’s work outside the home.
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19
The laws of Islam complement one another. When
Allah commanded women to remain home Saying
(what means): "…stay in your houses…" [QUR'AAN
33:33], He also decreed that men, their fathers and
husbands, etc., should be obliged to spend on them.

Physical exhaustion and psychological and
nervous pressure which do not befit the nature
of women
Negative aspects of women working outside the home
mixing with men, getting to know them and being
alone with them, wearing perfume for them and
starting to show one's adornment to
strangers (non-Mahram men), which can ultimately lead to
immoral conduct
Not giving the husband his rights, neglecting the
house, not giving the children their proper rights.

• Not disclosing intimate secrets
• Not disclosing marital conflicts
• Not disclosing any secrets the exposing of
which could cause harm to the family or to
any of its members
Confidentiality: keeping family secrets.
20
“One of the most evil of people in the sight of Allah
on the Day of Resurrection will be a man who went in
unto his wife and she went in unto him, then he
disclosed her secret.” (MUSLIM, 4/157)

“The Messenger of Allah said: ‘When
Allah wills some good towards the people
of a household, He introduces kindness
among them.’” (AL-MUSNAD)
Spreading kindness in the home.
21

Many men think that housework is beneath
them, and some of them think that it will
undermine their status and position if they
help their wives with this work.
22
Helping one’s wife with the housework.

Ayisha (ra) said: “He (prophet) was like any other
human being: he would clean his clothes, milk
his ewe and serve himself.” (AL-MUSNAD)
1. We would be following the example of the
Prophet
2. We would be helping our wives
3. We would feel more humble, not arrogant.
If we were to do likewise nowadays, we would
achieve three things:

23
Being affectionate towards and joking with the
members of the family.
Creates atmosphere of happiness &
friendliness in the home
Messenger of Allaah advised Jaabir (ra) to
marry a virgin, saying: “Why did you not marry a
virgin, so you could play with her and she could play
with you, and you could make her laugh and she
could make you laugh?” (Al-Bukhaari)

The Prophet also said: “Everything in which
Allah’s name is not mentioned is idleness and
play, except for four things: a man playing
with his wife…” (AN-NASAA'I )

Every member of the household is bound to have
some bad characteristics, such as lying,
backbiting, gossiping and so on.
24
Resisting bad manners in the home.

“Hang up the whip where the members of the
household can see it.”
“Hang up the whip where the members of
the household can see it, for this is more
effective in disciplining them.” (AT-TABARAANI)
25
“Order your children to pray when they are
seven years old, and hit them if they do not
do so when they are ten.” (ABU DAAWOOD)

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26
27
Beware of non-Mahram relatives entering upon
women when their husbands are absent.
Men and women should sit separately during
family visits.
Be aware of the dangers of having male
drivers and female servants in the house.
29 Forbid the house to immoral people.

Beware of the dangers of TV.30
Beware of the evils of the telephone.31
32
33
You have to remove everything that contains
symbols of the false religions of the non-believers
or their gods and objects of worship.
Removing pictures of animate beings.

34 Do not allow smoking in your homes.
Do not keep dogs in your homes.35
36
Avoid too much decoration in your homes (keep it
simple).

37 Choosing a good location and design of home.
• Close to a mosque
• Remind about prayer
• Enable men to join the congregational prayers
• Women to listen to the Qur’an recitation and
Dhikr over the mosque’s loudspeakers
• Children to join study-circles for memorization
of Qur'an,..

• With regard to design and layout
• Pay attention to the matter of segregating men
and women when non-Mahrams come to visit,
e.g. separate entrances and sitting areas.
• Covering windows, so that neighbors or people
in the street will not be able to see who is in the
house, especially at night when the lights are
on.
• The toilets should not be situated in such a way
that one faces the Qiblah when using them.

• Choosing a spacious house with plenty of
amenities. This is for a number of reasons
• The Prophet of Allaah said: “Allaah
loves to see the signs of His blessings
on His slave.” (AT-TIRMITHI)
• Paying attention to health-related matters such
as ventilation, natural light and so on. These
matters depend on financial ability and
feasibility.

Choosing the neighbor before the house
38
The Prophet of Allah commanded the Muslims
to seek refuge with Allah from a bad neighbor in a
permanent home because the neighbor in the
desert will eventually move on. (AL-BUKHAARI)

Paying attention to necessary repairs in the
home, and making sure that the amenities are in
good working order.
Paying attention to the family’s health and safety
procedures.
39
When any member of his family got sick, the
Messenger of Allaah would blow on
them and recite al-Mi’wathatayn (last
two Chapters of the Qur’aan). (MUSLIM)
40

Prophet of Allaah said: “Lock your doors,
cover your vessels, extinguish your lamps and tie
your knots properly [i.e., cover your jugs properly – in
those days they would cover them with a piece of cloth
and tie it], for the Shaytaan does not open a door
that is closed, or uncover something that is covered, or
untie a knot that you tie. And the mouse could set the
house on fire [i.e. it could pull out the wick of the lamp
and set the house on fire+.” (IMAAM AHMAD)

May Allah helps us to start transforming our
house to a ISLAMIC HOME.

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